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Since the neighborhood is close, once it spreads, it is difficult to reverse. We've put together safety measures to prevent chatting from destroying relationships.
Once you hear something, it becomes solid as a ‘fact.’
Assertions are easily conveyed, corrections are difficult.
Preface: **“That’s all I heard”**
If you disagree, it becomes ‘Are you on that side?’
This is the moment when chatter turns into censorship of belonging.
Neutral Sentence: **“I’ll reserve judgment.”**
Something meant to be funny can become a stigma to someone else.
Neighborhoods are more sensitive because their reputation is an asset.
Change the object: **just the situation, not the person**
From that moment on, the risk of transmission skyrockets.
It is an atmosphere where neutrality is not allowed.
Trust is already being shaken.
When mixed, it becomes clear.
Example: “The facts are A, my interpretation is B, and my feeling is C.”
Don't mess with your reputation.
Example: “That behavior is not that good” is allowed, “That person is not that good” is prohibited.
Don't ask for sympathy.
Example: “If you don’t know, you can withhold judgment.”
The rate of spread is fast in the neighborhood.
Example: “Let’s just talk about this here.”
Try saying: “I don’t know exactly about that, so I’ll reserve judgment.”
Try saying: “It may sound like an evaluation of a person, so let’s just talk about the situation.”
Try saying: “Let’s just talk about this here. If we go out, it’ll be uncomfortable for both of us.”
A. Conflicts are reduced if you say, “I’m not trying to break the mood, but I’m putting in place safety measures to make us more comfortable.”
It's comfortable because it's close, but the neighborhood relationship becomes more sensitive because it's close. We have organized the ‘distance control’ rule to prevent trivial words and actions from turning into misunderstandings.
The reason there is a lot of talk about meetings but no conclusion is mostly due to the ‘decision structure’ rather than the ‘who’. We have compiled a consensus routine that is fast and hassle-free.
The issue of membership fees is difficult to talk about because it is a small amount. Before it spreads to people's fault, I've organized a way to organize it with rules.
The neighborhood already has a strong network of relationships, so new members are more cautious. We organized a structure that blends naturally without excessive consideration.