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In casual gatherings, there are no rules and they are broken more often. Instead of blaming people, we have outlined ways to change the ‘participation structure’.
It is unclear whether “I will go” is a confirmation or an expression of intention.
If there are no set rules, there is no burden or responsibility.
Unification of confirmed sentences: **“Confirmed/Pending/Cannot”** Only one of the three.
Some people spend money/time, while others get away with it.
When costs arise, the ‘lightness’ is broken and conflict arises.
Deadline + penalty (small amount) rule: **“Cancellation after 10 o’clock the previous day is 1/n”**
The promise made in two weeks is still psychologically ‘fake’.
The further away you are, the more variables there are and the more priorities there are.
Create a Rhythm: **Fixed Day/Time**
It has become a system problem rather than a personal problem.
The meeting is not maintained.
A free-riding structure may have emerged.
We manage with conditions, not words.
Example: “Confirmed/Pending/Unavailable”
If there is no deadline, it is not final.
Example: “Closes at 10 o’clock the previous day”
Even if it is only a small amount, there must be a standard.
Example: “If you cancel after the deadline, the reservation fee is 1/n.”
Meetings become a habit.
Example: “Every Wednesday at 8 o’clock”
Try saying: “This week, please only answer confirmed/pending/unavailable. The deadline is 10 o’clock the day before.”
Try saying: “Because there is a rental/reservation, cancellation after the deadline will be charged 1/n.”
Try saying: “How about going with a fixed day of the week to reduce variables?”
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