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There are times when one side wants to help, but the other side feels judged. How to organize coaching as a structure, not a relationship.
Once coaching starts, it doesn’t stop.
Help becomes a burden if it is repeated.
Coaching is time-limited: **“Just 10 minutes today”**
Whenever I hear the words “fix”, my self-esteem goes down.
Exercise is all about the experience of accomplishment.
Ratio: **1 compliment + 1 correction**
Whenever I make a mistake, I pay attention to the atmosphere.
If a mistake is translated as a nuisance, the joy disappears.
Changing the Framing of Mistakes: **“Practice is the time to make mistakes”**
The burden has already increased.
Coaching has turned into a resource drain.
The goal of the meeting is not exercise, but awareness.
Without permission, it sounds like an evaluation.
Example: “I’ll give you a tip if you want.”
Prevent excessive help from being provided.
Example: “Just 10 minutes of coaching today.”
Power is maintained.
Example: “One thing I liked, one thing I would change.”
Agree a definition of practice.
Example: “Mistakes are part of practice.”
Try saying: “Can I tell you a tip if you want?”
Try saying: “Just do 10 minutes today and enjoy the rest.”
Try saying: “It’s okay. Practice is a time to make mistakes.”
A. So, making coaching ‘request-based + time-bound’ distributes the burden.
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